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Child Psychiatrist /Adult Psychiatrist

7 Steps to Nurturing Your Inner Self

Updated: Nov 21, 2023


By: Lauren Mackler, Contributor


Many people don't treat themselves verywell. They break promises to themselves, don't get enough sleep, are self-critical or fail to take good care of their bodies. In fact, if most people treated others the way they treat themselves, they wouldn't have many friends!


A great technique for treating yourself better is by developing your Inner Nurturing Parent. Imagine you had a little child in your car. You'd make every cffort to keep them healthy and safe; to love and support them; to be forgiving of their mistakes, their inevitable slips; and to let them know how precious and important she is. That's what a loving parent does. Only, in this case, you're the parent and the child. Below are sevenways to strengthen your own Inner Nurturing Parent, and turn the goal of treating yourself better into daily, living action.



women hug with both hands with a red  heart
women hug with both hands a red heart


Send loving messages to yourself. Tell yourself, "I love you and appreciate who you are." When you do something well, give yourself : pat on the back. Say, 'Great job! I'm so proud of you." When you're struggling or feeling low, be supportive by saying, "I'm here for you. You're not alone."


Take good care of yourself. A loving parent would make sure you're nourished and get plenty of rest, sleep, fresh air and joyful movement. Practicing good self-care is an essential part of this process.


Do nice things for yourself. Get into the habit of doing special things for yourself. Make yourself a cup of tea with the nurturing energy that you'd have when preparing tea for someone you love. Visit the sauna, get a massage or draw yourself a bath filled with special salts. Linger in it and relax. Make yourself a candlelight dinner -- delicious meal in a special setting. Coddle yourself. Treat yourself as a loving parent would treat you.


Set healthy boundaries with others. Let people know what you want and don't want. Tell them what's okay for you and what's not. If you have a friend who's always late and you end up waiting for them and feeling annoyed, tell them how you feel. A nurturing parent wouldn't let someone treat you badly. A loving parent makes sure their child's needs are met.


Become your own advocate. If someone is disrespectful or hurtful to you, speak up. Tell them you don't want to be spoken to that way. If someone was unkind, hostile or verbally abusive to your child, you'd stand up for them. Protect yourself as a nurturing parent would protect you.


Believe in yourself. A nurturing parent would highlight your uniqueness, tell you how special you are, encourage you to build on your strengths and support you in a loving, nonjudgmental way. A nurturing parent says, "You can do it." "T believe in you." Become your strongest supporter, coach and cheerleader.


And lastly and most important: Be compassionate with yourself. Have compassion for your humanity and your flaws. You're human and you're going to make mistakes. Look at yourself through the eyes of a loving parent; don't punish or criticize yourself. Reassure yourself. Comfort yourself. Accept yourself unconditionally. And show that same compassion for your own parents and others, because they, too, are human.


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